Advise and Give Your Opinion. PRUDENTLY.

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"Hei, Shada I think you are not suitable la to use this hijab's colour.. I saw your face drown je"

"You are dark.. Aini skin face is bright.. Your face does not pretty if you wear like this.."

"These days I see you are wearing the same scarf jak.. orr..  You just wear the same hijab."

"You don't have any petticoat kah? or... Instead want to show off?" 

"You do not have any veils kah? Orr.. you are lazy to wear hijab?

ISH...ISH...ISH..

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Above, I gave you some situation which may often occur frequently or rarely to you or anyone around you. 

Hmm. Talk to our heart. What do you feel when reading the above dialogues? Or maybe yourself can imagine how do you feel when there's someone who wants to reprimand by using the above dialogues? 

Your mounting confidence level will have fallen by a ball that is thrown from a very high place. I say like this because there's friend of mine that I've got reprimand in accordance kinds of color who wears the hijab ni.. Sort of like that lah.. Until I have less confidence to wear colors of hijab that I want to wear.  It was feels, yeah sad if the people whom admonish you, 

IS A PERSON WAS HAVE THE OPPOSITE SEX WITH YOU! 

and even more he is reprimanding you in front of his friends? 

Yeah, definitely! Everyone can't run away from making mistakes especially when the mistakes caused by the spineless tongue. Ouch! 

Yep. No offense if we want to give our opinions, reprimanding and advising with intention want to see people who is reprimanded by you for the better, but how do we criticize and express our opinion were  taken very serious even in Islam whatsoever. 

Islam is a religion of glory. Do we can't reprimanding someone with a better way? 

Reprimand someone not in the public or when you're with your friends. Reprimanding them when you're with the others will degrading and open the person's 'aib. Don't you fear Allah will open your 'aib in akhirat? Even when you are reprimand her/him, his/her confidence and the perception from your friends to you will change  360 degrees.   A little or as much of your friendship will be tenuous if he/her is unable to accept your reprimand way.

Reprimand them in a way that is acceptable dear friends. Give the praises to your friends by saying she/he was more beautiful or handsome when dressed as you try to recommend. NOT TO CONDEMN OR DESPISE THE WAY HE/SHE DRESSED. 

Remember no one is perfect, including ourselves. However, we also still have our own shortcomings. Do not reprimand him/her just because feel that our opinion is the best and our reprimand is right. Give the freedom for the people whom we have been reprimanded,  to explore what is right and wrong of  them. 

REMEMBER!

Don't be too quick to judge someone because we feel that we are the best. Remember and remember.

Don't be syok sendiri by saying .. " If I am a fashion designer, I would tell you to wear it like this, like that, like this, like that bla bla bla..." 

Never say anything that would bring the anger and make he/she do not feel comfortable with you. You also.. definitely don't want things like that will happen, right?

Last words. 

Terlajak perahu boleh diundur, terlajak kata apa padahnya? Think about it.

Heee.

(: THANK YOU :) 

Assalamualaikum and puppye.